The Fantasy of Always Leaving One Foot Out The Door

The Fantasy of Always Leaving One Foot Out The Door

One of the most frequent urges I get while adulting , working, going to college and other adult related phenomena is the urge to retreat or leave a situation ASAP. Whether its my anxiety or my introvertness, maybe both I’m not sure, I harbor a reoccuring desire to leave when the circumstances are not what I accept as favorable to me. I also realized i suffer from a severe case of ‘one foot out eh door syndrome.’ Meaning no matter the situation, good or bad, I would somehow manage to not be as involved as others; which is not good when it comes to being an adult. I first realized after graduation college. I had a halfway decent job, was able to save for my first car, enjoyed my weekends off, splurged on a vacation to Mexico with my fiance and received many accolades from my superiors. yet , I never felt it necessary or looked forward to staying there. This was because I hadn’t found my groove yet. My subconscious literally couldn’t fathom the thought of spending my days there in a role that didn’t fit me. If you can relate, don’t feel like a failure or lesser than; the one foot out the door is a natural reaction for those who are naturally prone to desire to be left alone. It’s like a caged animal but hopefully these tips help you cope with the nagging desire to leave a job or opportunity.
First piece of advice, don’t place the bar too high by feeding too much into the unknown. You’re risking disappointment which can be difficult to reset. Secondly, find solace in the fact that you’re able to understand when you’re not where it is you need to be and make plans to leave appropriately. Always figure out what made you want to leave so you don’t repeat it. Find an outlet, something to lessen the desire to flee. Maybe join a meetup, meditate or speak to someone you trust. Lastly, reset your battery. Often take a break from the environment which makes you want to leave. Bring a book, magazine or something which may allow you to break into another world creatively. Just remain positive and hang in there. Always remember you are a strong person and one you land where you truly belong you will feel confident and at ease. However, until this happens, give yourself a chance to let things play out.

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